The Strength in Submission: Why Being a Soft Woman Takes More Than People Think

Being a submissive woman in today’s world is like walking around with a target on your back. People assume you’re weak, brainwashed, or controlled. As if choosing to depend on your man is the worst possible thing a woman can do. It’s like, if you’re a submissive woman then you automatically dislike masculine women.

But here’s what some people fail to understand: being a soft, feminine, submissive woman takes more strength than they’ll ever know – and it came from a masculine woman. Getting here was harder than drowning in my own sorrow, harder than being angry all the time, harder than constantly fighting for control. It was easy to be defensive, easy to expect the worst, easy to handle everything alone and complain about how I do it all alone. But I wasn’t happy. What actually took work was unlearning survival mode and stepping into my feminine energy. That is when everything in my entire fucking life shifted – absolutely no stress from a day to day basis.

Submission Isn’t Weak—It’s Work

Healing is not a trend – it is real and it comes with prizes. 

People think submission means passivity. That it requires no effort, no discipline, no resilience. But anyone who has done the real work to embrace their femininity and trust a man to lead knows how hard it actually is.

What wasn’t easy? All of that shit. 

• Learning to control my emotions instead of reacting out of anger.

• Letting my guard down after years of feeling like I had to protect myself.

• Trusting a man enough to follow his lead without micromanaging.

• Understanding that real submission is a choice, not a trap.

It took more strength to unlearn my survival mode than it ever did to stay in it. The version of me that needed to control everything felt safe, but it wasn’t happy.

When you’ve spent your whole life doing everything on your own, the idea of letting go feels foreign. When you’ve only ever seen weak, unreliable men, the idea of trusting one feels impossible. Trust me, I know. I’ve been abused and left abandoned so I know exactly what it feels like to be let down. It’s not that women don’t want to be taken care of—it’s that they’ve never had the option.

Strength in Softness

It takes strength to be soft in a world that tells women to be hard. To trust when society tells you to guard yourself. What the fuck are we guarding? Why are we purposely ruining our door to happiness? It takes strength to embrace your femininity when you were taught that independence is the only way. “You don’t need a man!”

You can be submissive and still be a working woman; don’t confuse the two.  

Submission isn’t about giving up power—it’s about owning a different kind of power. The power of peace. The power of trust. The power of knowing that when life gets hard, you don’t have to carry it alone. You honestly don’t have to do shit but follow the lead that’s in your best interest. You get to make your own money, keep your own money, invest in your own money, invest in yourself, invest in your home, invest in your man. There are so many positives in becoming a… “soft girl.”

A submissive woman actually steers the boat but that’s a totally.. different conversation. 

So, the best part? What works for you does not matter to me because I am in my home—safe, cared for, and at peace. And that? That takes more strength than you will ever realize.

Xo, B